What is "Great Love"?

"Great Love" it's one of those fickle words that never seems to have a concrete definition. After spending the weekend watching a string of sappy chick flicks, some of them sending happy messages some of them making me want to give up. What is "great love"? If you believe movies like Sweet Home Alabama then "great love" is the kind that finds you once and even after being torn apart inevitable comes together through fate or something like that. If you believe My Best Friend's Wedding then "great love" can be the love you secretly harbor for your closest friend which you only acknowledge once it is too late. Under the Tuscan Sun gives a definition which suggests that "great love" only finds you when you hit rock bottom and focus on yourself before it falls into your lap. Or you could choose to go the Sex and the City route which suggests that "great love" is the love that never quite lets go. It is horrible, great, passionate, and at times hopeless but through it all you find a happy ending.

The most frustrating part of all this chick flick marathon is that all of these movies/shows are Hollywood's representation of what women want to be true. You can find a movie to fit any romantic situation, which means that regardless of your situation and find hope in an otherwise hopeless situation. So, how the hell are you supposed to know when to give up? Look at real relationships, people who are happily married...ok, I have some people telling me never take him back or you will regret it because they had a relationship that through a break up or two did not work out, then there are those who had the relationship that was rocky and unstable but through the break ups and the heartbreaks ended up working once the problem was resolved.

Grr, I've come to the conclusion you can only decide for yourself what is right. You have to learn your own lessons and make your own mistakes. You can only hope that those who love you and want only your happiness will support your decision and not make things more difficult. I want my "great love". For the most part I would settle for knowing if I have already had it.